Long time no see, Blogger. I hope everything has been well in the blogosphere, (totally not a word, but I'm owning it). If this were an actual conversation and not a rhetorical statement to a blank sheet of paper on my laptop, I would answer back that everything with me has been a wild and messy concoction of things.
My life since my last post has been good, it has been painful, it has been wonderful, and it has been numb. It has been filled with countless smiles, numerous tears, a pleasant amount of laughs, and a lot of frustration. I have made many beautiful memories, quite a few mistakes, and gained some new friends in this past month. My heart has hurt, but also been filled with incomparable love and joy.
I suppose I will start the chronicle of junior year with my trip to Newport, RI, which is something I planned to dedicate its own post to... and may still follow through upon. The weekend of the 12th of September I went on my annual family trip to Newport for one night, and remembered why to me, Newport is such a happy place. I had my first annual PSL, fudge from my favorite fudge shop, and watched the sun set upon Bowen's Wharf. I loved every minute of that trip, and continued to have a great weekend once I came back to Curry.
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Me, loving life before making questionable life choices |
That same weekend, however, I also broke up with my boyfriend of two years. Even now, I am not sure of how it came about into conversation, but I finally found honesty within myself and told him that I had not felt happy with him in quite some time. I had pushed aside how I had been feeling for his feelings for a long time, and that was not fair to either of us; I know this now.
I found this quote shortly after the breakup, and took time to reflect upon how I was feeling. I loved him very much. The two years that we shared were filled with so very many wonderful memories and I have no regrets in our relationship; other than that I was not honest about how I felt until it was too late. As much as it hurt me to hurt him, however, I also have no regrets about breaking up. Our relationship had run its course and the two of us were on two different life paths entirely. Our relationship was no longer one of honesty and love; it was us simply pretending that things hadn't changed.
I am now finding who I am on my own. I have not known Curry without being involved with him in some way. I knew that this meant I was bound to make many mistakes on my journey, although I hadn't imagined life to work out in the ways that it did. I found myself involved with a guy much earlier than I thought, although I continued to justify the situation by telling myself neither of us was ready for a relationship, but what we had was comfortable, and that made it all okay.
I continued with my ways of not being honest, though, and we never talked things out until he slept with his ex. Pretty freshly out of a relationship, and I had felt like my heart had been ripped out again. This person was my friend, and though we didn't define anything else, what kind of friend does something that would hurt the other without even imagining how it would impact them? When we talked it out, we discovered that we both had feelings for each other, but nothing would come of it, but he continued to mess with my head. I don't know if these things happened intentionally, and I would like to think that they didn't, and that he just has things to figure out in his own life, but I can't keep justifying my pain for someone else's mistakes.
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Marina & The Diamonds Motivation! |
I've been trying to practice more self-love lately. I'm tired of taking other people's shit. I'm sick of being walked all over. I'm a catch! I am an amazing person with a beautiful heart with a bright future ahead of me. This is what I frequently tell myself on days that I feel particularly bad about the pain I've caused my heart. I've decided to try and embody a more empowered self-image, very Marina & The Diamonds-esque. Every day I tell myself that I'm a bad ass bitch from hell and that I'm going to run the world one day. I may not believe myself every day, but this is the way I want to remember who I was my Junior year. Not as some girl who frequently lent out her heart to only have it returned in pieces, but as the girl who others were privileged to have in their lives. Because when all else fails, I am my biggest supporter.
I have been able to lean on my friends during these hard times, though, and for that I am forever grateful to them. To Courtney and Leyah, to Caroline and Tom, to the Ratch Batch, to Ethan and Kevin, and to my RA Staff; to all of the friends that have been around when I have needed them most, there are no words to express my gratitude. I have not always returned this favor in these past few months, and for that I am also very sorry. I will likely make many more mistakes within our friendships, and I hope that you will always find it within you to be able to forgive me. I love all of you and know that wherever life may take me, you are all the friends that would metaphorically take a bullet for me. I aspire to be the type of friend that you are all to me.
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Forever grateful for these memories |
Junior year has been interesting in other aspects, as well. Although this is the first time I am taking only 5 classes, (and no labs), academics have proven very challenging so far. My Exercise Physiology course is absolutely kicking my butt, but I am still loving every second of it. Biology has never been my strong point, but I especially love the class during my own workouts; it has actually proven to fuel my attempts at running when I think of VO2 max and reaching a steady state! #nerdlife....
My other health classes have been quite time consuming as of late, but I still love my major wholeheartedly. I may not know where I want to be in my future, but I am so passionate about health. Good health is the key to everything, and I love witnessing how it all interconnects in life. My
Walking Dead Philosophy course is super time consuming, as well, but it is the most interesting take on a required philosophy course that I could find, and I love that a lot of my homework involves consuming myself in the show. Although I have to pay attention to the episodes, it feels like two birds with one stone; doing homework while also taking 45 minutes to myself to relax.
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Probably the most accurate tweet I've ever seen about the show. |
Being an RA of 30 freshmen girls has also been quite the task. I enjoy it much more than I did working with upperclassmen last year, and definitely feel as though I'm getting the true RA experience out of this year. I feel as though I've built up a pretty good relationship with most of the girls on my floor, as well as scattered residents throughout the three buildings that make up my area. They come to me when something exciting has happened, or if they need advice, and although it takes up much of my time, I still love it. These girls are great, regardless of how demanding my job may be. I think they are still learning that there is a vast difference between freshman and junior year, and that I am frequently busy and unfortunately will not be there for them at all hours of the day. I sometimes feel that they resent me for my schedule, but I try to make up for it with the little things.
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One of my October bulletin boards! |
By now, the fridge is pretty full, and I think the appeal has worn off, but they love the interaction between us. I have lost and gained a few girls within the two months, whether they have left school or simply moved out, and many plan to transfer after the year. I wish that I could change this, but I realize that it isn't a reflection of my job here; I am doing my hardest and they still appreciate having me on their floor.
I have unfortunately put HIPS on the back-burner lately, and that is one of my regrets for junior year. HIPS is my baby and the window that has opened so many incredible opportunities to me. Yet with all of the things I have going on in my life, I have been struggling to find the time to fully put my all into the club. I'm working on it, though.
I'm working on finding more time for myself, too. I have spent far too much time this year attempting a social life, rather than taking care of myself, and justifying this by saying I was simply improving my social health. I am struggling with the concept of balance, but I know that I am getting there, and that it's okay to make mistakes; it just takes a lot of convincing.
I am a strong girl. I have a great head on my shoulders, and I have independence for days. Junior year may have had a rough start, but I am going to mold it into one of the best things to happen to me. I don't need a man in my life, even if it is what I'm used to. I have it within myself to rule the world, I just have to practice a bit more self-love while I figure out how to do so.
I want to do more yoga and get more sleep. I want to read and write more. I want to go to the gym and appreciate my body more. I want to laugh more, and not beat myself up when I cry anymore. There is nothing wrong with me. I want to love more, without forgetting to love myself in the process. Junior year, I accept you, for all that you may bring to me. I accept the sadness that will inevitably hit my life, and I accept the happiness that will accompany the many things I do. I accept that I will not get everything perfect this year, and that I will frequently make mistakes. I accept all that may come with an open heart, and I will never stop trying.
Abby